TIME, FAMILY, AND THE EVIL IN BETWEEN—SOCIAL MEDIA PT.25 Minutes To Read

In my post last week, I attempted to make you aware of the problem that you and I face as addicts to the social media craze that has become part of our everyday lives. Through that, I made you aware of the game and how it so easily sinks its teeth into our lives and clutches our attention.

Now, I want to present to you some ways that I am personally waging war with my own “pull” toward this phenomenon. Much of this information I have learned from the app that I use called Moment that helps me view how much time I spend on my phone and what apps I use the most

1. I CALL ‘EM AS I SEE ‘EM

Speaking bluntly can be seen by many as a trait that is more harmful than good. Although I can see the emotional aspect of that argument, I must confess that I believe it is more helpful to speak bluntly and call things what they are than it is to allow someone to believe a lie or live in delusion. The value comes from being willing to offend someone in order to present the truth to them-which is far more loving I might add.

With that said, you’ve got to call social media what it is. At the end of the day, social media is ultimately entertainment. Yes, it is an excellent advertising platform. Yes, it is a way to stay in touch with your kids. Yes, it’s a wonderful way to share your life with those you care about the most. Yes, it’s an excellent platform for free speech (which is slowly fading), and share your voice. But none of those reasons can justify the amount of time we’re spending on it. I can only speak for myself, but 85-90% of the time I spend on social media apps, or anything that leads into that, is time wasted. Now, I have clarify what wasted time is in order to have a healthy grasp on this entire conundrum.

I believe time is considered “wasted” when it’s least used for the Kingdom of God and the will of God for me, my family, and my church family.

This is why I label my social media apps “Time Wasters”

2. I TURN OFF ALL NOTIFICATIONS

This was the most difficult for me. I love productivity and I love dings and chirps, because it makes me feel important; it’s the feeling of “wow, something or somebody needs me” or gives me a sense in which I am being more productive because I’m crashing down on the next notification with all my attention.

I believe that if Solomon lived in our age and were to still write Ecclesiastes, he would say this, too, “is vanity and striving after wind.”

Again, remember, the notification is designed to draw you in!Think about it, it engages three out of the five sense in order to get it.

  1. It grabs the attention through use of audible alert (hearing)
  2. It grabs the attention through use of vibration (feeling)
  3. It grabs the attention through use of banners, badges, and feeds (seeing)

Most of these simultaneously.

Understanding that and understanding my own weakness to fight off the urge to look when notified, I turned them off. I’m too weak. It’s best that if I were to look, I look intentionally not under compulsion.

If you need help on how to turn notifications off click here for iPhone/iPad and click here for Android devices.

3. I REGULATE MYSELF

This is where we go back to the “old days” where there were no notifications, and you had to physically type “www.facebook.com” in order to look at what’s new. Mind you, it’s still tempting for me and I still have not mastered myself when it comes to compulsive looking at social media. But, I can honestly say that I feel more in control of my habit and only look out of true boredom or perceived boredom. Some of our habits are strictly out of reflex and muscle memory along with the desire to have a hit of dopamine to make us feel reward.

I have also established routine for my usage and boundaries for myself. I try to limit my social media to:

  • In the mornings after my quiet time with the Lord
  • During slower times when I’m not busy or have a demand on my time (sermon prep; meetings; counseling; phone calls…etc)
  • During lunch for about 20 mins, but I force myself to have a conversation with whomever lunch is with.
  • During the evening when I’m resting and relaxing for no more than an hour.
  • I do not sleep with my phone in the room. I leave it in another room on charge to avoid the temptation and interruption.

I believe that this is a good start for me and will help me win the race that I’m called to run; a race that involves self-control, pace and aim (1 Corinthians 9:24-27). This also helps me manage my time for the glory of God and His Kingdom (Ephesians 5:15-16).


  1. Do you plan to turn off notifications?
  2. Are you willing to call social media what it is?
  3. Are you willing to throw them all into one folder and label them “time wasters”?
  4. Are you going to set and establish boundaries along with a routine for social media consumption?

Comment below and let me know what you think!

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